“The difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do." Be authentic, original,creative. Don't refuse your own experiences.
Why do most of us human beings go to work each day, why do we live with a partner, why do we have children? What are we trying to achieve in all of this?
Many people live without fulfilled basic needs or sometimes they forget to distinguish between needs and desires. What are the human needs? Maslow put forward the theory that human beings assign clear, hierarchical priorities to their individual needs . Existential needs are the first priority. It is certainly clear that not only the human being but also in general every being upon the earth first of all seeks the resources necessary for survival, in particular food and an environment in which it is actually possible to live.
Carl Rogers believed that every person can achieve their goals, wishes and desires in life. When, or rather if they did so, self actualization took place. Like a flower that will grow to its full potential if the conditions are right, but which is constrained by its environment, so people will flourish and reach their potential if their environment is good enough. People who are able be self-actualise, and that is not all of us, are called fully functioning persons.
This means that the person is in touch with the here and now, his or her subjective experiences and feelings, continually growing and changing.
Open to experience: both positive and negative emotions accepted. Being able to live and fully appreciate the present, not always looking back to the past or forward to the future
Feeling, instincts and gut-reactions are paid attention to and trusted. People’s own decisions are the right ones and we should trust ourselves to make the right choices.
Also creative thinking and risk taking are features of a person’s life. “It is essential to first reconnect with who you really are and what you value most,” Satterwhite said. “Too many people live life through the prism and the prison of a false personality where the real self is buried under layers of expectations—who a person ‘should be’ and what he or she ‘must do.’ As children we tend to condition ourselves—we shape-shift our identities—in order to stay connected, loved, and belong in our environment. The more we strip away these false layers, the more we are able to expand our sense of self and our place in the world. Those who live in fear will not travel very far in their journey of self-actualization Fear is restrictive—it cuts off expansion and actualization whether it be within an individual, society, or government. Those who value themselves and the gift that is this life enough reach a point where the pain of staying inauthentic overrides their fear. Those who step into their fears know the joy that comes with the learning and the growth that comes with the courage to step into the unknown. Often what we fear the most is what our heart is calling us to become. It scares us because it matters that much.”
One of life's challenges:to take responsibility for our thoughts, words and deeds. To be proud and satisfied that we are doing our best in life. To be walking the path, our path to realize our own potential. And, at the same time, try to help those around us to do the same. Your thoughts and plans need to be combined with action to create a result. The focus on your goals and dreams will provide the energy and motivation for taking action. If motivation is lacking, don't wait for it to appear. Take action first and then watch your energy and motivation blossom! Take action on your goals everyday. Make them a priority by working on your daily goals before doing the mundane things of life.